Frequently Asked Questions about Sleep Training.

Absolutely not. I breastfed my children and would never ask you to stop unless it’s what you want. There’s a lot of noise out there about feeding—I'm not here for it. Breast, bottle, combi... as long as you and your baby are thriving, it’s all good. No judgment. No agendas. Just sleep.

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I’m called 'Sleep Through' Jen for a reason. I’m primarily focused on helping your little one start having long, restorative naps and sleeping through the night as soon as realistically and developmentally possible. 

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And to me, sleeping through means just that—no disturbances. It doesn’t mean sleeping through the night in your bed, or sleeping through except for a couple of night feeds.

So if you’re not focused on making progress towards that goal, we’re probably not the right fit. No judgement—just clarity. I work best with families who are ready to make meaningful changes and want to see a real difference.

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Honestly? Same. I’m not a routine person either—but babies are. They thrive on structure, and when you give them a bit of rhythm, life gets a whole lot easier. 

A lot of parents worry they’ll have to cancel their social life, never go out in the evening, or be chained to the cot for every nap. I get it — we all know those parents who are completely ruled by their baby’s schedule. That’s not what I’m about.

The routine we create is for your baby, not for you. It’s there to serve your life, not take over it. I'm all about helping you get out, do things, have fun, and still have a baby who sleeps like a dream. Routine gives you the best of both worlds: a sleeping baby and a life you actually enjoy. I’ve written more about this here — if you’re still unsure whether routine’s really for you.

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Totally. No one likes hearing their baby cry—especially not me. But here’s the thing: crying is communication, not catastrophe. We’ll talk a lot about what it means, what’s normal, and how to respond in a way that’s calm, confident, and grounded in what actually works.
You’ll have a clear, step-by-step plan and full support the whole way through. Everything we do is designed to help your baby feel safe and settled.

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Let’s talk about that word—because honestly, “gentle” can be a bit misleading. There’s nothing gentle about a toddler screaming in your face for half an hour while you tiptoe around trying to keep bedtime 'calm'. And while co-sleeping and breastfeeding all night long might look gentle from the outside, if your baby is waking every 45 minutes, it doesn’t feel gentle for them. They’d much rather be sleeping deeply, undisturbed.

 

When it comes to sleep training techniques: gentle is subjective. What feels supportive and reasonable to one person might feel totally out of reach to someone else. It’s like a ballet dancer calling a stretch “gentle” while folding themselves in half — it’s all about perspective.

I’m interested in peaceful, restorative sleep — for your child, and for you. And sometimes, getting there means stepping outside the realm of what you’d usually consider gentle. That can feel a bit uncomfortable at first. A big part of my job is supporting parents through the shift, because staying too comfortable often means staying stuck.

That said, some babies and children are desperate for a bit of structure and respond beautifully to responsive, consistent guidance. If that’s your child, brilliant—we'll start there and won't go any further than we need to. But if it turns out that more is required, I won't shy away or leave you hanging. I’ll guide you to the solution step by step—with a clear, confident plan and full support the whole way.

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What I offer is clarity, confidence, and results. Because at the end of the day, a well-rested child is a happier, healthier one—and that’s when things feel truly gentle.

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If you’re asking how long it takes to feel more in control, the answer is: straight away. Once we make a clear plan, you’ll know exactly what you’re doing and why—and that alone makes a huge difference. Most families start seeing improvements within a few days.

If you’re asking how long it takes for your child to sleep through the night without any disturbances, that depends on a few things: age, feeding needs, and the decisions you make during our work together. Young babies can start sleeping in longer stretches much earlier than most people think—but full nights without feeds come later for some, and that’s normal.

With older babies and children, progress can be very quick—especially if they’re just waiting for a bit of structure and consistency. Sometimes it only takes a few tweaks. Other times, it’s more of a process, and progress depends on how ready you are to make firmer changes and how your child responds.

So there’s no one-size-fits-all timeline—but when the right plan is in place and followed consistently, change happens. And often faster than you’d expect.

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When you’ve had enough. That’s honestly the only marker that matters.

Don’t wait for regressions to pass, teething to end, or some magical “right moment” to arrive. If you’re exhausted and ready to feel better, let’s go. 

There’s no magic age either. Whether your child is 8 days or 8 years old, the principles of good sleep can be taught—and the results can be life-changing. If you already know that protecting your sleep, your freedom, and your sanity matters (like it did for me when I had children), then starting early is a brilliant decision. But if that moment didn’t come early—and you’ve spent years just trying to survive—starting now is just as powerful. It doesn’t matter when you do it. What matters is that you’re ready to make a change.

Sleep deprivation chips away at everything—your energy, your confidence, your ability to think straight. If you're close to the edge, take the first step when you're ready. I’ll be here.

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You might feel like you’ve tried everything— and I don’t doubt that you’ve worked hard. But if you’ve convinced yourself your child just can’t sleep, I need to stop you there. That’s not the truth. It’s just where you’ve landed after months (or years) of bad advice, broken sleep, and zero progress.

Your child is absolutely capable of sleeping well. You just need to stop repeating what hasn’t worked and start doing what does. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start actually solving the problem — I can help.

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Life’s rarely tidy—so the real question is: are you ready? If the answer is yes, we can usually get started.

There are a couple of exceptions. If you’re about to get on a long-haul flight or head off on a big holiday, it’s probably better to wait until you’re home and over the jet lag. But if you’ve got a short trip or a week away coming up? No big deal—we can work around that.

Starting nursery soon? Honestly, the best gift you can give your child (and yourself) is sleep. Settling into childcare is so much easier when they’re well-rested.

Moving house? Redecorating? Navigating a separation? Children are far more adaptable than we give them credit for. If now feels like the right time for you, it’s the right time.

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Illnesses come thick and fast in the first year or two, so this question comes up a lot. Just when you finally feel ready, your baby starts coughing, gets a runny nose, or suddenly looks red-faced and dribbly with a tooth coming through.

Can you start sleep training in that moment? Maybe. My advice is always to observe your child for a day or so. Is this a nasty virus or just a mild cold? Are they alert and happy during their awake time—or miserable and out of sorts?

If they seem well in themselves, we can absolutely go ahead if you’re ready. Sleep is the best medicine, and what we’re doing will only support their recovery. But if you’re worried at all—pause. Wait until you’re confident they’re well. There’s no benefit to starting when you’re anxious and unsure.

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In many cases—yes. I’ve worked with lots of children with additional needs, including autism and ADHD, and they can learn to sleep well with the right support. But of course, it’s a spectrum. And some children have more complex needs that may require input from medical professionals.

The best thing to do is book a free call. We’ll talk through what’s going on, and I’ll give you an honest answer about whether what I offer is the right fit for you and your child. My priority is your success - so if I don’t think I can help, I’ll tell you that upfront.

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All good sleep consultants take a holistic approach—because everything is connected. Naps, awake windows, feeding, bedtime routines, settling and resettling... they all impact each other. 

So yes—naps are absolutely part and parcel of what we do. Whether your child resists every nap, only sleeps on the move, takes short catnaps all day, or has wildly unpredictable nap timings—we’ll fix it. 

 

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We begin with a 90-minute video call. This is where I walk you through exactly where the sleep problems lie and how to fix them. It’s ideal if you can come to the call ready to listen (and if both parents can join, even better). But if you’ve got children climbing on you or you’re doing this solo as the lead parent—I get it. The call can be recorded, and you’ll get a full written plan afterwards, so you don’t have to memorise a thing.

 

After that, you’ll get access to the members area of the website, where you can book your follow-up calls. You can use these right away or space them out across the month—whatever suits you best.

 

In some cases, if it becomes clear during our call that you’ll need more support, I might offer a sleep diary review or a week of WhatsApp coaching. Not every family needs that—and for some, it’s actually more helpful not to micro-manage every detail. It’s about finding the right level of support without making things more complicated than they need to be.

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Once the month is up, you’re not on your own. You can stay in touch for as long as you need—either by booking one-off 'pay-as-you-go' Top-Up Calls, or by upgrading to lifetime support if you want me on hand for the long haul.

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Yes—absolutely. I’ve worked with families all over the world. As long as you speak English and we can find a time for the calls that works across time zones, we’re good to go.

 

The process is the same wherever you are: we meet on Zoom, you get your written plan afterwards, and then you book your follow-ups through the members area. It’s all online and easy to access.

 

The only thing to be aware of is that I work on UK time—mostly in the mornings, so if you're halfway across the world, we’ll just need to be a bit strategic when scheduling calls. Drop me a message if you're worried and we can discuss. 

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If you follow my advice, it will work. I haven’t met a single child I can’t teach to sleep. What I have come across are parents who don’t follow the plan, who pick and choose bits, or who disappear halfway through despite my best efforts to support them.

Like anything that involves change, it takes commitment. Think of it like working with a personal trainer: the question isn’t “will this work?”— it’s “am I ready to do the work?”

I’ll guide you, support you, and give you everything you need. But the progress comes when you're ready to lean in and commit. And if you are? You’ll be amazed at what’s possible.

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